When is enough, enough?

My husband was on a 9 month deployment. He cheated on me when he got back.. I took him back and we went to marriage counseling but not as much as we should have to seriously fix the trust he was told to rebuild with me.

He leaves for a month training. He wouldn’t call me or text me or FaceTime the kids that often while out in the field.

4 says after he gets back I get this text message from a random number suing they slept with my husband but they said his name. Then they said I’m sorry and he told me you were divorced and you were crazy.. I bring it up to him and I’m like wtf is going on and he says it’s all a lie and someone is messing with me. Then two days after that text he buys me a new diamond ring.

So I see this girl all over his fb and I ask him who is this and he said a new girl in his unit and said that they are really good friends. I say was she the one you slept next to and he lied and said no. Because she wrote me later that day saying she slept by my husband in a truck and that they were constantly around one another being overly friendly with each other. I asked him if this is true and he tried denying it until I told him she messaged me.

He now is giving me the silent treatment and wants a divorce. He has withdrawn the money in the account. And doesn’t want anything to do with me. Makes sense why he didn’t call or text me was because he was with this soldier.

What is going on..?!? He’s saying he doesn’t know who would write me saying they slept with him but it doesn’t seem real and the girl that wrote me said it wasn’t her. What do you girls think?

I told his chain of command and the soldier and him denied it all so NOTHING is going to happen😩. I also got checked for STDs waiting for the results.

*update* last night I was going to go out to a movie by myself and he called the cops on me for leaving the house. And kept asking me where I am.