SORRY ITS LONG: help!! ok so just over a month ago i tried having sex for the first time. I already knew I was tight bc guys have fingered me before and we’ve talked ab that. I don’t really masturbate, I’ve never tried fingering myself before. anyways when I tried having sex, it was very painful (which i was expecting) but is a certain amount of pain not normal? I am naturally super tight and he popped my cherry and I bled a LOT. I started bleeding so much that we had to stop and I continued light bleeding for 2-3 days after. We tried again a little over a week after that and it was still very painful. I expected it would hurt less because I thought most of the pain from before was from him stretching and breaking my hymen. But this second time around it still hurt a lot. It was too much pain that my body just tensed up and every time he’d get farther in my natural response was to just pull away from him because of the pain. I also noticed afterward that I’d started bleeding again from it (not nearly as bad as the first time, but still did) None of my good friends are sexually experienced so I don’t have any of my very close friends to talk with. Other people have told me I just need to finger myself to try and stretch it out more. I have recently tried and it just feels so weird to me. I’m not sure what else to do to get to the point where it’s not as uncomfortable for me. I also want to mention that I’m fully aware sex can be painful for some people for multiple times until they are more used to it, I am not expecting the pain to just magically go away overnight, and I also would say that I do have a high pain tolerance. I normally would just deal with it because I know the only way to improve is to keep doing it and just deal with the pain, but please tell me, is there ANY other way to make it better for me? I’m embarrassed that we’ve never been able to fully enjoy the experience all the way through, it’s always cut short because of my discomfort. A few of my friends that are sexually active, never stop talking about how good it feels for them and how much they enjoy it, and I just can’t relate! 😔