Is it normal that i feel like this? Feeling down

Question

Im pregnant the same time as my SIL (husbands bros wife). Our 1st after alot of struggle, their 2nd.
Our due dates are less than 1 month apart. Hers is late june mine is early july.
Me and husband tried for nearly 3 years, clomid, iui, ivf which resulted in a chemical at nearly 5 weeks. So this natural pregnancy came as a big surprise, a good one of course. Husband told me today that Sil is expecting, is it normal that i feel really upset and annoyed by this? I think its because it feels like our special time is being taken over and dampened. I just wanted to feel special for once 😔😔😔😔😔. I know i should just be greatful but i cant lie, i do feel really really crap about this, especially since our dates are So close. We dont talk or really vibe or get along. Advice?

Answer

I can understand after trying so hard for your baby, for it to be almost over shadowed by someone else in the family expecting. I would say, u never know how hard of a journey she may have had in terms of ttc. I ttc for a few years but in silence. No one even in my family or friends circle even knew i was trying to because i felt like if i struggled to get pregnant (which i did) i would always get asked questions so i always told everyone we were not in any rush to have a baby. Being pregnant and bringing a baby into the world is an amazing blessing and i would say that considering you have finally been blessed, i dont think you should let your anger consume you over someone else’s blessing. Think of it this way - God forbid! Something was to happen to her unborn child - you would feel AWFUL for feeling this way about it wouldnt u? 
Is she not a nice person? Not approachable etc? Maybe this can be the thing that finally lets u both bond? Pregnancy and being a mum is so confusing and scary sometimes! Having someone go through a similar journey is so much better and easier! My two sisters were pregnant at the same time and it really brought them closer together and i wished when i finally got pregnant i had someone close to me who also was! It can be very lonely sometimes! Also look at it this way - your kids will be the same age and grow up together! That will be so nice for ur little one to have a cousin his/her own age! Unfortunately im the youngest in my family and now that iv had my little girl, all her cousins are now 8years and over. I wish she had small cousins to play with. 
I would draw the line however at the rest of the family/your husband making MORE of a deal about ur SILs pregnancy than yours. Ur right -  this is your time aswell so u should be able to revel in it! If that does start to happen, maybe have a chat with your husband and explain that even though ur so happy for his brother and wife, uv waited for this for a long time and would like to be somewhat of a priority atm! 
Sorry for the long comment and if i seemed harsh at all!

Is it normal that i feel like this? Feeling down

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