Am I being sensitive?

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Gonna make a long story short. And I don’t want to sound selfish or rude but it may come off as that. I promise I’m not rude or selfish tho. 
Anywho, my bestfriend who I’ve been friends with for yearsss is getting married March of 2020. Well she asked me to be a bridesmaid and out of curiosity I asked who did she chose as bridesmaids and who is her maid of honor. So a little background about my friendship with her. I’ve been around for her lowest times and her happiest moments. I was the first person she told she was pregnant, the only person that came to see her child, one of the people that talked her out of suicide and giving up her child, and her having low self esteem. I was there every step of the way basically and we use to always say if she got married I’d be her maid of honor. So anyway she has another friend and they have always been rocky. They went without talking for a while because The girls mom treated my friend like shit when she was at her lowest point. So initially she stopped talking to her friend because the friends mom encouraged her daughter to break off their friendship so she did. Once the girl tried to come back around my friend ignored her for months and would always vent to me how the girls family made her feel like shit. This girl wasn’t at my friends baby shower nor did she come to any other events. Long story short this is who she chose to be her maid of honor. It made me feel shitty and I didn’t express it to her because it’s her choice and her big day. It’s not about me but it did make me feel some type of way. It really did. Am I being sensitive or selfish?

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Yeah that stings a bit. Unless she brings it up to you, keep your feelings to yourself.

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You most definitely have a valid reason to be annoyed smh. I would be too

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I mean. Your feelings are valid. But you keep them to yourself because it isnt about you and whoever she wants as her maid of honor is also valid.

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I'm sorry you feel that way, the good ones always put on the back burner..😓 happens to me all the time idk why.

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It shows how she values and prioritises you. I would reconsider how close you make yourself to her in the future and how much of your time and effort you put in x

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Her wedding, her decision. She’s got her reasoning and for her, it makes sense. Just because she’s your best friend doesn’t mean you are hers. It’s great that you have been there for her through the best and worst times. Shows you are a good friend. Maybe they have a history together. Friendships, just like relationships go through their ups and downs. Just because you have rough spells doesn’t mean you just give them up. They obviously have some sort of bond that still ties them together. As a friend, you should be happy for her. At the end of the day, you will be there to celebrate the day with her. That’s really all that matters, not if you are the first in line or second or third.

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I understand your feelings, but you don't really know what their bond is because you've just heard the negative parts. You just need to accept her choice and move on. Unfortunately for her, I'm sure this will likely color your future friendship with her.

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never heard more valid feelings i totally understand the way you feel

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You have a right to have your feelings especially in this case. You're keeping it to yourself even though you're hurt because you value your friendship and that doesnt make you selfish. It's ok to have feelings. It's what you do with those feelings that really shows your character and you're doing fine unless you blow up and mishandle this situation.

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Personally I think your feelings are valid. Has anything happened lately between you two that would cause her to feel like the other person deserved that place? I don’t want to make it sound like you’re entitled to be her MOH but you were there every step along the way along with her telling you consistently you’d be her MOH. That would make me feel low too though!

Am I being sensitive?

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