No emphathy

My fiancé has very little sympathy for situations he isn’t in or doesn’t understand, or for emotions. I feel like when we got together he was either kinder, or at the very least would keep his harsh comments to himself and would let me vent/cry and try to be there.

Over the course of this past year and us living together ive started to notice how little empathy he has at all. I’m not allowed to talk to him anymore if I’m upset about situations if there’s “nothing I can do to fix it”.

Some of those situations were, not talking to my family for months, and when we did talk, my family wasn’t very nice. They’re very religious and conservative and didn’t take well to me moving in with my fiancé or getting pregnant.

Another was when I got pregnant. I had a very hard pregnancy (couldn’t eat or drink for a month and a half and was sick constantly). It was an emotional rollercoaster for both of us, as it was unplanned, but he would be supportive then flip to being upset and the opposite of supportive. He would start fights and I was an emotional wreck, and then he would get mad at me for being upset. He started to shut down whenever I got emotional.

I lost the pregnancy, and two days after he had to leave with the marines for two weeks. When he got back, he was shocked I wasn’t over it. I didn’t talk to him about how hard I took it bc I figured he’d just get mad. One night he heard me crying myself to sleep and we started talking but then he just yelled at me for keeping him up. I left the room and he later came to find me and apologize but he doesn’t understand how much it hurt. Even now.

His dog tried to eat one of my pets that I’d had since it was a baby. I had to find it a new home bc I was scared it would get eaten. He didn’t apologize and I was sad bc I had to give it away. He yelled at me about being upset - I never knew if it settled in okay or anything and I know it’s not my business anymore but I don’t get why he asks how I’m doing if he’s just going to yell at me for having emotions?