Do I tell her..?

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Okay so this is kind of silly but my brother and his fiancé and getting married in June, and his fiancé is one of my closest friends. I am her bridesmaid and yesterday while we were planning wedding stuff she told me that she picked a song for their first dance and she played it for me.
Weeelllll I didn’t say anything but the song is SO DEPRESSING. It’s more of a breakup song than a “yay we are so in love and we just got married” song. The melody is absolutely beautiful but the words are very sad and there is literally a line that goes “I don’t know how much more I can take before you lose me” 😬😬😬 I don’t know what to do. Do I tell her because she is my friend and it is her and my brothers wedding or should I not because she likes that song and she can do whatever she wants on her wedding day? My husband listened to it and cringed at the words and was like “whyyyy exactly did she pick this song?”
Anyway I’m just in a weird spot because I know that people will get judgy when they dance to that song for their first dance and I want their day to be perfect for them.
Help. I need opinions!

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I wouldn't say anything. It's their wedding, their music. You don't know why she chose that song.

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I’d want my best friend to tell me! I’d just ask her why she chose it as the lyrics are a little odd for the occasion. If she gives a reason and understands the lyrics are a little unconventional, then just support her through that. But I think I’d at least bring it up.

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I’m a very honest and blunt person. I would have told her. But you know this person better than we do. Some people can handle criticism some people can’t. If you think she would freak out and get upset than don’t. If you think she can hear what you’re saying and not get emotional I would say something.

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You are in her wedding, so it is part of your job to bring up something she doesn't realize. Maybe, listen to it with her and brother and say oh wow did you hear this line? Then point out a few other lines and ask her if they sound like a break up song. She probably has bridal brain. Sad songs can have really pretty melodies, so she probably doesn't realize.

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I would say something. I’d ask her why she chose it and tell her it’s a nice song, but it is a breakup song

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Nah dont say anything. Let your brother veto if he cares. Guarantee no one will even remember the song the next day.

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If she likes the melody maybe try to find a nice instrumental cover of it? Or the song without words?

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Thank you ladies!

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Heck yes!! But do it a bit easy. I’d be like, “girl u know that’s such a beautiful melody to the song, maybe try to get the song in instrumental only, because the lyrics don’t match being in love, it comes off as a breakup song because (insert your reason)..” it’s a pretty valid point in all honesty. On the bright side , so long as u word it right, it won’t come off offensive. 
By giving her the option to keep the melody which is more than likely what she based her decision off of in the first place, ur not necessarily being offensive. If that makes sense 
  (ex: I love this Ed Sheeran song “supermarket flowers” it’s totally not a love song but the melody is breath taking especially the piano and violin only instrumental) btw I highly recommend listening to the YouTube video of this. It’s by alison sparrow

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I would ask her like hey this song says "this and this" .  im not sure if it's bad luck playing a sad song for your wedding

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