Feeling good with vanilla

Posting anon since Im embarrassed about this

My last relationship was with a man who was rather Kinky. BDSM, Rough play that sorta thing. it really turned me on and I enjoyed it very much. I had broken up with him for different reasons and I am now happily in a different relationship... with a guy thats more vanilla. Mind you hes not totally vanilla,, He will Rough play with me a bit but He gets really shy and awkward When i mention toys, Rope or anything thats slightly kinky. He makes me cum but it takes me much longer to do so than if he Just choked me Or Used a whip... After a long talk he said that hed love to try but hea just shy and Doesnt know Where to go or start... the poor guy was freaking out when i pulled him into a lingerie shop and he didnt know how to react...

Long story short, How can i introduce more of the kinkier Itrests into my relationship? lingerie, Impact play, Toys?