So I’m 23, my coworker is 45. He actually used to be my boss when I started at the company, and he helped me get a promotion to a different department so we no longer work together but we still are in the same building. We are really close—people in my office joke that he’s my “work dad” which he really is lol. He’s the person I’m closest to at work and he always has my back, like I said he helped me get the promotion I have now and sometimes I just talk to him about life and he gives me advice.

So for some reason, I keep having these dreams about him?? They’re not really *sexual* as much as much as they are just... romantic, I guess? Like theyre always dreams where we’re just a couple and that feels normal, we kiss, hold hands, etc.

Obviously I have no control over my dreams. But for some reason every time after I have these dreams, for the next few days or so I then go on to consciously fantasize about it...? I don’t know why and it’s so frustrating.

The silly thing is, I’m happily married. He’s happily married and has a kid. I don’t ACTUALLY have any sort of romantic or sexual feelings towards him, like when I think about it in real life. I honestly don’t even feel attracted to him at all, in reality.

It always makes me feel super guilty and gross and super weird around him just for thinking about it, even though I would NEVER want anything to actually happen 😫 yikes what’s wrong with me?