I can’t take this

I just had a complete mental breakdown. I’m trying to clean and my husband can’t seem to keep the kids out of the kitchen. I don’t understand what’s so hard about it but I guess he wasn’t even watching them.

I put one boy in timeout for playing in the trash can and send the other to his room.

So then hubby tells me that I can go to the new year dinner at my grandparents house alone because I’m being bitch. I just can’t deal with it. I get zero help with cleaning the house. I get zero help with our boys( they are both 2)

To make things worse he never cleans up behind himself and he’s been upset with me because I wouldn’t make him a sandwich after I made breakfast.

I’m to the point where I don’t feel like a wife. I don’t feel appreciated. He thinks all I do is bitch. He thinks I’m mad because he won’t clean but I just wanted him to make sure the kids didn’t to past him. Is that too much to ask???