I had a miscarriage. Saying those words breaks my heart. It doesn’t feel real. I decided early on that I would tell a few people about the pregnancy, mainly because we did a frozen transfer and we had talked about it with some people. Having to tell them that we miscarried was the hardest thing to do. And worst of all, is that people say “ohhh I’m so sorry” then move on and don’t check in. Or they try to make it about themselves. I spoke with someone at my doctors office a few hours after the ultrasound that showed us we had miscarried, and the receptionist was all bright and happy and said “we received your ultrasound results. If you’ve followed up with your fertility clinic then we don’t need to book you in. Have a great day!” It was such a slap in the face. I don’t know where I’m going with this, but can I just say, if you know someone is going through a miscarriage it’s not hard to send a message saying that you’re thinking of them. It’s not hard to show you care even if you don’t understand what they’re going through. This is all still so raw and emotional. I’m thankful my husband has given me time and space to grieve and has taken over early mornings with our daughter so that I can sleep a little in the mornings because i haven’t slept well and can’t fall asleep for hours since this all started. Miscarriage is way more common than people think and it doesn’t matter how far along you were when it happened, it’s still a very painful and difficult loss. Ii