I always thought if I ever caught my husband cheating I would pack my bags and leave. Now it’s become a reality i am torn.

We’ve been together for 15 years married for 5. Things have been difficult the last couple of years we lost a much wanted baby, decided to wait before retrying and relocating we’ve both very high pressured high flying jobs, then things became very strained so we decided to wait as we was both unhappy together.

He changed he became distant his family and friends noticed to. I tried to get him to go to the GP but he didn’t he was “coping

Fast forward we worked on things and the last six months have been great we’ve been dating, making plans being us again.

New Year’s Day I find texts from a girl they clearly had an affair. He said he regretted it immediately but she was threatening to tell me every time she wanted something. I’ve asked why didn’t he leave it tell me himself but he thought I’d leave right away. I’m angry and hurt at them both. He said he felt suicidal at times got himself into a situation and couldn’t see a way out without tearing my world apart.

We are booked for marriage counseling which is all I’ve agreed to for now. he refused before when I’ve suggested because he said he couldn’t be honest with having a secret. However now everything is out he wants us to work things out.

Has anyone ever worked on a marriage torn apart from infidelity and it worked, so I walk away from 15 year’s because he made a life changing damaging choice? Or can we work this out and have the life we originally planned?

I don’t want people saying just leave if it was that easy I would.

Just to clarify he has owned his mistake and said it’s purely his fault and there is no reason other then his ego.