Trying to spice up my sex life

Hey ladies,

I hope you all are well. On the journey to starting our family, I’m trying to spice up my sex life with my husband. We’ve been married 3 years and been together 14. His complaint is that I don’t initiate enough and we recently purchased handcuffs. Looking for some advice in the sex realm and any tips for the handcuffs (our bed is tufted and not poled so I can’t figure out how to integrate it 🤦🏽‍♀️) Any advice?!