Is it shallow to break up with someone because of no sex?? Please help 🥺🥺

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Okay so me and my boyfriend have been together for about 3 months now and I love him to death. He’s sweet, caring, funny and treats me better than any man I’ve ever been with before. Here’s our dilemma: my boyfriend and I had sex for the first time about a month into our relationship and it was okay, but then he just stopped. Every time I would initiate sex he would make an excuse that he’s tired or he’s sick which was fine but after about 4 or 5 failed attempts and him not initiating himself, I decided to ask what gives. He kept saying he didn’t know why he didn’t wanna have sex, but he finally revealed it was because it was against his religion. Now my boyfriend is a strict catholic who goes to church every Sunday so I knew he was religious, but he had told me in the past he’d had sex with his last girlfriend and had initiated sex with me just a month prior so I found this behavior very confusing. What also bothers me is that he has no problem asking me for oral whenever he wants it and he has never once offered to reciprocate or even so much as finger me. It makes me feel like my pleasure doesn’t matter to him. I brought this up to him a few weeks ago and said that him expecting oral but never giving it is selfish and unfair to me. He agreed, but I’m also starting to feel like the religion thing might be an excuse for a deeper reason why he doesn’t want to have sex with me. He smokes weed, drinks, and does everything else that’s technically against God, so why is sex such a big sin? He also is open to oral and even anal, which again is a sin (sodomy). I’m a Christian myself but not against any of these things. A part of me thinks yes since premarital sex is a sin it’s better if I don’t have it since it’s against God and also I have this amazing guy and the only thing ruining our relationship is he won’t make love to me. He kisses me and hugs me/ does a little over the clothing touching but won’t go any further. So ladies, in the words of the great John Quinones, what would you do?

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Leave ! Don’t give him oral no more

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My ex husband was an alcoholic and with that means lower sex drive but also he cheated ALOT. He would also ask for oral and had a problem with porn ALOT. Our sex life was nonexistent. We went to counseling etc. Nothing worked. If you are only dating, I would leave. Being sexually frustrated and for your sanity, I would be looking for a way out. He sounds selfish and picks what he sin he chooses to do and not do. It will never get better. Trust me on this.

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Not shallow at all. You're not sexually compatible, & that's a normal reason to break up especially being only a couple months in. Just dump his weird ass! Lol

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He sounds confused. I'd find an easier relationship honestly. I dated a mormon like that for a bit and he was the same and it just got weird. He was the biggest hypocrite I ever met as well.

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I kind of dated a guy like that and I started feeling extremely frustrated. It would definitely be a deal breaker for me. I don’t believe in dating just to date and there’s no way I would want to be sexually frustrated for the rest of my life.

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So premarital sex is a sin so he won’t do it but then wants you to sick his d-ck....that’s a hypocrite. When you called the religious thing an excuse you were right. This dude is a hypocrite and a liar. Religion has nothing to do with it. He’d just rather get a blow job over sex and he doesn’t give a 💩 if you’re satisfied or not. Sex is important to me so I’d dump him. No way would I be giving him blow jobs when I can’t get 💩 in return. Do you really wanna be doing this for years and years?  He needs to find a woman who only wants to suck dicks.

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That’s a really tough situation. I would sit down and have an open conversation with him about it. Tell him/ask him all the same things you just did in this post and wait for a reponse. I don’t think it’s shallow to break up if you guys can’t see eye to eye. Sexual compatibility is a huge part of any relationship and neither of you should be unhappy or give something up you don’t want to. Might not be what you want to hear but you seem logical, and from your question, you might know what needs to be done. Hope it all works out, but if it doesn’t, know that there is nothing wrong with finding the person who is right for you. Good luck!

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Nah, not shallow at all. I broke it off with a man because I couldn't deal with the way he kissed. We moved to the make out stage of dating and it was like he was eating my face off lol. So yeah, I moved on. Can't do that 😂

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I would break up with him too

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Maybe hes gay? Only will do oral and anal and wrong have vaginal sex with you. Sometimes people try to be in relationships if they feel uncomfortable with their sexuality. Someone who comes from a strict catholic background may not feel accepted if he were to come out as gay and having a relationship with a woman might hide that side of him. Not saying it is necessarily the case, but just something that came to mind reading your description.

Is it shallow to break up with someone because of no sex?? Please help 🥺🥺

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