TWO COMPLETELY DIFFERENT BIRTHING EXPERIENCES..

She’s here!!!! Sorry it’s soo long!

Alrighty! So it’s my turn to get to tell my labor story! A little background info. I always wanted to share the story of my first and as the time went by, I just never did. This time around I thought, it would be different, and I would make sure to make time to share my experience.

In a nutshell of my first-

It was a baby girl EDD:06/30/17

OBGYN

Got my membranes swept at 37weeks, which did not lead to anything.

Started laboring at 3am- got sent home two different times on the 25th due to not dilating. While laboring I kept choosing to lay in bed, and “try to sleep it off”.

Went in again, finally caved for an epidural (I was mind set I did not want one). I then her at 7am was on the 26th. I essentially was in a total labor of 28 hours, and I had a second degree tear.

2nd baby girl:

I thought it would be a good experience to try a midwife and see the difference. My rationale of this was maybe I’ll be able to do it without an epidural, get a little more support/guidance, and finish labor sooner with a Midwife present.

All this was, was decided by me at 30weeks pregnant.

Well fast forward to 36 wk 5day, I started getting contractions almost every night, but they were never 5 minutes apart! When I went in to be told I was in early labor. My midwife suggested I try to rest up when possible, to at least wait until I’m 37weeks. 37weeks and some days came by and MAN every night I would go into this early/false labor stage but by midnight, it would go away. This went on until I turned 39 weeks! At this point I was done, because every night was not just contractions, they were extremely painful, and I could not sleep without waking up from feeling them! I then decided I better go in and get checked! Mind you at this point I was at a 1.5 since my 36 week visit. When I went in on 4th I had and after getting checked I was told I was only at a 2cm, they pretty much said, you can try to take the morphine to try to see if it allowed me to rest, or to help relax my body enough to kick start the real thing. So, we decided let’s do it, and go home to see what happens.. Well I was able to sleep, but was still feeling contractions! But NEVER did I get the constant contractions! Woke up to some more contractions, and some more of my bloody show. The whole day the continued to get worse but once again NEVER consistent. I encourage my husband and 2 and a half year old to sleep early (8pm is early for us lol), but we all were able to fall asleep. Well at least they were haha. I once again continued to wake up, time the contractions, but once again the were from 3mins, 6 minutes, 8 minutes apart. I didn’t want to make a big fuss since we have our 2 year old to think about. So I continued to try to follow the 5-1-1 (5 contractions, 1 minute, for 1hour) rule. Until I could no longer do so. 10:30 comes around and I feel strong contractions, and I decide I will call my my mom. I called my mom saying please come get our 2 year old we might get sent home again, but I can’t take the pain any longer and I want all the pain meds possible since I was soo tired for being at this for some time. We rush in at around 11ish, they know me by now, get me in check me, and I was only 3.5cm dilated, but continued to lose more bloody show. My midwife was not there and was apparently going to arrive in 20-30minutes. They don’t properly admit me because they’re sure it’s not time yet since I’m only at a 3.5. Mind you im constantly asking for meds at this point because I am feeling terrible, and of course they need to wait for my midwife to arrive. At this point the monitor is saying my contractions are about 3-4 minutes apart. I felt the urge to pee, my husband attempts to help me up to the bathroom. In attempts to get up, I’m in unbearable pain that I rather pee myself lol but of course I don’t I wait and inbetween contractions I get up pee walk back. I suddenly start getting an intense sense like I need to poop at this point we’ve somehow been there for about an hour and midwife has still not arrived! I’m raged in pain, begging, and yelling at the nurse to give me all the drugs possible lol (I had the sweetest nurse ever, I apologized profusely for yelling at her about medicine after of course lol) while she stepped out she left the door slightly open. I suddenly feel that urge to push again, and I KNOW I shouldn’t push yet. So I’m holding it in as I attempt to yell “HELP!!!!!! She’s coming I feel her!” Multiple times. At this point it’s 12:50 and my damn midwife has still not came in!!! My nurse goes to check me and realizes my water is bulging and yells out for assistance cause NOTHING in the room was set up and ready to go... at this point I’m trying soo hard not to push and still begging for meds and at this point it’s starting to sink in.. I won’t be having any meds 😭

My midwife appears and says alright let’s do this. I’m asked to push and my water breaks or whatever, literally after this my daughter was on her way.. as soon as I had her they laid her on my stomach and I felt soo much pain still... I asked my husband to take her off my stomach but to please hug her for me.. since I had a 1 degree tear they needed to add a few stitches and well I was unmedicated so I needed to get numbed and I was finally able to get some medicine in... I love my babygirl don’t get me wrong but the last two days.. I’ve been just slowly trying to wrap my head around what all occurred and how everything was out of my control, but my baby girl is health and in my arms and everything is ok now! But I will say the first few days were difficult not to feel a certain way about everything and still extremely exhausted, but little by little it has and is getting better. I will say, it is Perfectly fine to want an epidural or medicine during labor.. it is one of the hardest things our bodies take on, no one should ever be shamed for taking it. Everyone is different, and that’s ok. All the mommas who are up next, you got this! Medicine or no medicine, remember your little one will be in your arms in no time regardless of how you decide to do it💜💪

Here is my little lovebug 💕

EDD: 1/11/20

DOB:1/6/20

7lbs 5oz