So should this bother me as much? Am I wrong?

Look. I'm not native to english so I might not word myself correctly all the time..

So my husband and I both have our "tasks" but I'm really slow and forgetfull.. And it bothers me that if I'm still working my ass off my husband is chilling in the couch and feels like because I'm slow I deserve no rest, I should just "learn to become quicker" he doesn't think it's fair if we both spend thesame amount of time on chores but that we do thesame amount of chores..

We both work fulltime and when his children are in the house I'm fully engaging myself to raising them, helping them with their schoolwork and such, during which he often sits in the couch and I still have to begin my chores.

How do you guys feel we should go about it?

Spend thesame amount of time on chores

Or

Do thesame amount of chores?

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No, I'm not diagnosed with any disability, my doctor said I could have some but to have a diagnose would cost a lot of money and since I am fully functional in a comunity, with full time job and everything it's, according to my doctor, not worth the money.

Me being super slow is a thing I've had since very early childhood, I remember my parents saying it and I remember being bullied about it in kindergarten and primary school.

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So it's completely fair that there are weeks where I don't have 1 minute of rest while he litterally spends hours a day in the couch?

Seeing that there might be a medical undiagnosed reason for my "being slow" and even though I do my very best I cannot get any faster?

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If it were a time management thing I would understand his position 100%.. But it's not.

Even if I'm working my ass off full speed, I'm still a bunch slower than he is.

When I ask him te help me he gets really angry stating that, like some of you said, it's not his fault I'm slower than he is, so he shouldn't do more than I do. (yet might be worth saying that if he doesn't cook he expects me to pick it up even when he hasn't asked me a thing, his task is to cook)

Since we are both working fulltime I feel like we should be partners, it does bother me a lot, not because he's sitting around a lot, the sitting around only bothers me because I litterally have no time to relax at all, while he has hours, it's not a competition but I deserve some rest too even if I'm slow.

My doctor had a few things that could be the cause of my being slow, and never went into details, but I'd have to go to a specialist to have any kind of diagnosis, It's not covered by any insurance and would be extremely expencive.. And I'm sure he won't be happy about us spending the money on any kind of diagnosis.

While a simpler solution would be for my husband to help me out a little more so I can have some rest too.. I'm not asking him to do everything, just to help me out when I'm exhausted and in need of rest and some chores I'm not getting done because I was so busy with other chores I didn't have the time to do it.