My husband only just realised..

So..

I've been telling him, often, how he is too short tempered and has a short fuse and how it hurts my feelings (my psychologist helps me process and communicate it in the right way to him)

And I guess to a point he already knew that but still he never accepts me getting upset or hurt whenever he is so hard for me (not abusive just very strongly aggressively opinionated)

So..

This week something happened, he was pulled aside by one of his employees who told him like look I know you're decent but lately you're going full time bully and people have started a petition to get you out of our area. (also notable before work that day he had been very hard and criticising on my household skills, been raging at me for an hour in the car and he said quite litterally that me being upset is really never his fault that he's just being brutally honest)

So his employee telling him what she told him.. Together with me crying and being hurt in the car because of his hour rant.. He finally understood that even if HE feels like it's right and correct what he's saying, it is not as correct or "the right tone" as he thinks it is..

So with other people now telling him this he finally realised something needed to change