Boyfriend lying

Hey guys! This is a really long story but I’ll try to make it short...I dont have anyone to talk to about this and I feel so alone...so I figured I’d make a post on here to see what to do.

Basically my boyfriend used to smoke week, watch porn, and play video games like ALL day long. After living with him I realized he had an addictive personality. He’s a real estate agent, and after arguing about it a whole bunch, he realized he needed to stop being addicted to things if he wanted to succeed. We moved in last year and he told me he quit smoking, and watching porn (I mean obviously every once in a while but he wasn’t addicted and stuff).

About a month ago he asked me to start hiding the controller so when I was at work he wouldn’t play video games all day, and he could set up appointments and make phone calls.

(HE ASKED ME to, keep in mind).

Today I checked on the controller in the closet (where I’ve been hiding it) and it was moved. I realized he had probably searched for it and found it and has been playing allll day.

Then I was doing my makeup getting ready to go today, and I remember I put it in a backpack because we just got back from vacation about a month ago, so I went to grab it and found a lighter (full). Okay then I snooped (I know, I know) in his desk drawer and found two more lighters that were full. I assumed he was smoking again.

BASICALLY long story short, he got home and I (very calmly!!) asked him about all of it. Found out he’s been smoking weed like three times a week, and he searched for the controller and has been playing video games all day too while I’m at work. And he’s been deleting his search history and has been watching porn all the time. (Which like, thats fine! Idc about it but he admitted to me that he has a problem with it, and he doesn’t want any of that in his life, so that’s why I’m upset). I’m upset because he lied and has been doing it behind my back. That’s why he hasn’t been selling houses, or making appointments, which is why money is tight for us rn. He just left to go show a house, and I’m sitting here not knowing what to do.

My first thought was to pack my shit and stay at my sisters for a while (she lived close).

But then I think that’s a little over the top. He didn’t ever care when he told me. He just told me all of it and I was like “okay” and then he was gone. I feel like he really doesn’t care about me or respect me. I don’t know what to say or do anymore. I could really use advice, please nothing rude, I just need advice. What would you do?