Communication Toxic?

My bf is really mistrustful. he wants clear communication which is fair to me, but if he doesn't immediately get it the way he likes it he assumes I'm lying and every single time he's assumed I was lying.... I was legit never lying. I feel like that is toxic. he thinks I'm making excuses for myself to be a poor communicator. I think that it's possible that I could be, but even if I were, it would not excuse or justify tolerating an assumption of calling me a liar when I generally have good integrity and I'm known to be an honest person. he panics and always makes jokes about me having another boyfriend and insists it's a joke, but I really don't think it is now. If he doesn't get every single detail and maybe a picture of some people there, he thinks I'm lying about who I'm with and what I'm doing. also thinks I'm lying if something crazy happens to me that no one could have expected. every time I try to bring this up to him it turns into an argument where he tells me that I am asking him to baby me and to being an adult and I'm making excuses for myself. It gets to the point in the argument where I say I think he's being unfair, and then he says "Did I ask for lip? You want to see unfair? No? Then shut the fuck up." He's very certain that I'm the one not listening. I feel like I'm crazy now and I don't know what to do. What is a fair level of communication? What is wrong to you?