Need help regarding baby daddy :( LONG STORY please read.

Hey guys, I’m 18 years old and 8 weeks 4 days pregnant. I was on the contraceptive pill, used the morning after pill, and he had pulled out (which is not a form of contraception). The man who I fell pregnant to, is my ex boyfriend. We initially dated from 14 years to 16 years, however, we broke up after he had attended a party and slept with another girl. We have kept in contact since, for the purpose of emotional support and sex.

When I tested positive to being pregnant, I told him immediately. his response was to terminate, which I knew I wouldn’t be able to do, regardless of the poor timing and our attempts to prevent it. I’m not against abortions, but for me , personally, it’s not something I was able to do. He called me up abusing me when I had told him I wanted to keep it, and I told him if he felt he wasn’t ready he didn’t need to be involved, that there is no pressure at all in that aspect. He ignored me for several days and in that time I had told my mum I was pregnant. She and the each of my family strongly dislikes him, and mums reaction was to tell him it wasn’t his child as she is worried he will be a bad influence.

I thought about it a lot, as I personally dislike lying especially over something as serious as this. However, with more consideration I realised it may be best for both myself and our baby for him to not have involvement during this time, though I absolutely wanted to tell him at some point. Due to his drug use, partying, his family’s dislike of me due to his continuous lies about me, his friends who each encourages him to drink heavily and use illicit drugs, I really am doubting wether I should involve him at all, though definitely morally wrong.

I don’t want my child to be in any harm and I’m unsure if he would be able to “grow up” as such. Mum keeps discouraging me to tell him it is his baby, but I don’t want my child to not know where his/her dad is or why his/her dad didn’t want any involvement.

I told him it was another mans child, despite it absolutely not being.. I’m in such a tough spot. I tried to contact him and arrange to catch up to clear my conscience and tell him the truth, but he ignored me despite our plans to get dinner at 6pm, and he didn’t reply until 8.30pm to say something important had come up. I went on social media and had seen on a girl’s socials that I know he was drinking with her and her friends, which clearly means that was more important. Not that I can blame him, as he thinks it’s someone else’s baby. Though in messages I did suggest otherwise.

Should I tell him and potentially affect my child? Or should I not tell him and leave my child without a father and no support :(