I am having a hard time making a decision about if anyone gets to hold the baby after delivery and who. RSV and the fact that my baby will not have an immune system when she’s born are the main factors that are important to me. I know there will be a lot of people at the hospital. We both have big families and his family especially all show up when a baby is being born. For my side this is my mom and dad first grandchild so I’m sure a lot of them will show up too. It just really makes me nervous with all those people and hands and germs even if everyone sanitizes.

Another factor is this is my first baby and I can already tell I’m going to be attached like I won’t want to let go of her or let her out of my sight.

With it being such big families and so many people there it’s hard to set limits on who gets to hold her but these are the options I’ve come up with so far:

1. No one gets to hold or touch only mom or dad

2. Only grandparents

3. Only grandparents and siblings

4. No kids

This is my parents first grandchild so i kind of feel guilty if I don’t let them hold her as well as my sisters. And if I let them hold her I’m definitely letting his side hold her as that wouldn’t be fair. The problem with the no kids rule is my sisters are both younger 14 & 10.

Any suggestions or advice? What would you or did you do?