With our son, I did sneak peek and found out the gender early. I loved it. I got to buy outfits, fix up the nursery, etc.

This time around, my husband wants us to find out at birth. I am really struggling with this. He just thinks it would be very exciting and dramatic to find out then. I understand but I also bond with baby by setting up the nursery and picking out items. Also by choosing a name and using it before they are born.

I dont want to be selfish but I really want to know.

Anyone have been through this? I would appreciate the advice.