My mom is vastly irritating. I don't know if it's because she is bored, being old, or her nature. She is constantly finding something to nag about randomly. She is 69 and lives with my dad. I come from a big family and she bounces from one sibling to another. However, she tends to bother me most whether I am at home or not. I tend not to say anything because I have seen her cry so many times because my other siblings have "put her in her place". I must say she has sacrificed a lot for us, even denying and neglecting herself. I feel like she is so used to being bothered with us that its unnatural for her to do anything else. She knows that I am constantly in meetings or interviews during the day and she will call my phone let it ring once and then wait for me to call her back. If I don't call her within 3 mins she will text and say "I called by accident, I was trying to text you." Then it will be followed by a broken English text message that I will have to decipher because she doesn't type her messages, she uses speech recognition. And it will say something random like I called *blank* and told him I read that letter the bank sent.

Then if I don't respond she will find another topic. "Your dad cursed me out because I am cleaning up." She will make it sound so innocent but then... "I took all his stuff and just threw it on his bed!" "He pours coffee in his cup and it drips everywhere so I boxed up the coffee maker." I can't respond because if do she will call me.

Then she will call me again in a couple of hours to check and see if I'm on lunch. If I don't answer she will ask for me to call her when I get a chance. If I don't call her on lunch when I get off at 5pm she gives me 1 minute to get to my car before she is calling.

Then I answer and I have to lister to her complain about my dad, my son, my aunt, and my siblings for my entire drive home which is 30 mins only to arrive at home and to see she is parked outside my house.

Or it could be a Saturday morning that I am looking forward to sleeping in and she will call to see if we are up and when I finally answer "I have been sitting in my car for 2 hours waiting for you to wake up."

What should I do?!!!!!