She always betlittles me

My mom always belittles me, just tonight Target is holding my order for pick up and we got home from a walk. I go to sit down, drink water and catch my breath. Then she starts saying when are you going to go don’t they close at 10? And I said no they close at 11 and she starts going on how oh wow they used to close at 10. And I said ya times have changed. So I’m drinking water she she starts saying wow our sense of urgency is really different. One, interview clothes isn’t an urgency as I’m just applying for jobs and I’m the one who thought of getting them. Urgency is your house is on fire and you gotta grab your family, not cheaply made clothes from Target. I didn’t tell her that. I kept telling her I have time and she responded with You’re just not a doer you’re a procrastinator. I responded with that is your opinion. And she went on how we need you to get a job and will the money go back into her card if I don’t pick it up. Now my mom isn’t one to ask kindly she mocks and belittles with a condescending tone.

For someone who isn’t a doer, I sure as hell have accomplished a lot that she hasn’t recognized. I get up everyday and exercise and continue to push myself even tho I deal with exhaustion time to time from my thyroid. That is a doer. I pulled myself out of a toxic relationship and vowed to myself to better myself and have stuck to it. That is a doer. I turned my pain and created a business from it and celebrated 1 year of being an entrepreneur. That is a doer. I am finding a group to unlearn my codependent tendencies that my mother raised me with instead of turning to drugs and alcohol. That is a doer. I am seeking a part time job to increase my income even more and was the one who told her that and she acts brand new. That is a mother fucking doer.

I am tired of her belittling me from childhood to now and even when I lived on my own. and the only reason I moved back was to raise my credit my ex destroyed and get a house. I tell her how can I help with debt and money And what can we do to make our futures better and the next day she acts like I’m an airhead unaware of anyone’s situation. I try to ignore her, but after a while when one big asshole keeps spewing out crap, their words and energy becomes shit. Idk if I should try and educate her by talking back or keep my responses limited and keep doing me