What would you do if this was your best friend?

Ok, I'll keep this story as short as I can.

Been friends for over 10 years and we have common interests but she's an extrovert and thrives on gossip, I am an introvert and prefer to just hang and watch movies or go shopping.

She's never really supported me in anything I've had happen or things I've wanted to do, but I've supported her through all of her life experiences, good and bad.

Around the end of 2018, she is telling me every time we see each other how her and her husband are planning to start ttc in the new year. To be fair my husband and I had already discussed having kids, but I didn't feel comfortable telling her we would also be trying as you don't know how these things will pan out, so I just told her we'd discussed it but hadn't actively tried as yet - which was the truth. To which she replied "obviously you aren't ready if you're still taking and not trying" which I found super hurtful but didn't say anything.

In the new year, I fell pregnant. We told our immediate family on both sides at 10 weeks, but I was waiting to the 12 week mark to share the news with everyone else. Every time we caught up she was constantly asking me if I was pregnant and trying to feed me soft cheeses and cold meats. The night before i'd planned to tell everyone, she grilled me about being pregnant, so much so that I told her I was but she ruined the surprise as I was planning to tell everyone the following day. I told her she couldn't tell anyone and she immediately told her husband and 3 friends. Again, she totally ignored me and it hurt.

As I progressed through my pregnancy, she still hadn't fallen pregnant and she stopped wanting to catch up altogether. She always had an excuse when I tried to reach out, which also made me feel like I'd done something wrong.

My husband and her husband were talking at a mutual friends party and her husband discloses that she is having issues falling pregnant. My husband tells me this, and I totally understand that she probably doesn't want to be around me while I'm pregnant and she isn't, so I stop reaching out because obviously it's causing her pain and she doesn't want to talk about it with me, or she would have already.

Once I had baby, she asked to come to the hospital and so I said yes and then she came with hey husband and took my baby out of my aunty's arms and proceed to cuddle her for an hour, and they only got there like 2 minutes after my aunty, and my cousin hadn't even had a hold yet!

So I start to ask her to catch up again, but it's met with more excuses like before and we finally see each other as a big group of friends over Christmas, and again she holds my baby girl the whole time, which I was annoyed at, because other people wanted a cuddle too.

So I try one last attempt, I ask her to come with me to my hair appt, and we can catch up and she can have baby cuddles the same time, to which she agrees as she's "free all day".

The morning of my appointment, she tells me she's having lunch with her mum. I am shocked but ask where they are having lunch, to which she replied down the street from the salon. So I think ok, she'll catch up with with us for an hour or so before lunch, and it's another excuse to leave.

This is where I've lost all and any respect and friendship I was holding on to.

She comes in, for 10 minutes and cuddles my baby girl, and then just as I'm going to the basin to wash my hair, she asks me what I need from the pram and I ask why and she says she's taking her to lunch. I am so shocked that she expects to take my baby away, and that it would be totally fine not even asking me, just says it like a statement not a question.

So I feel silly (cue the introvert/timidness in me) and I feebly tell her I'd like my handbag and water bottle.

She comes back once I'm done with her mum and aunty, and proceed to tell me my girl has been so good, and she had to change her nappy. I'm so shocked and I feel violated for both me and my daughter as shes only 13 weeks and her grandma's and her dad and I have only ever changed her nappies.

The thing is, I've been so forgiving up to now, for the way she's treated me and now I'm just over bring the one to make an effort and this latest thing had really just made me realise how much she has no respect for me.

Had anyone else experienced something similar and what did you do to resolve it? I don't even know where to begin to tell her how I feel.