Some of you have already read this story, I’m just adding on some updates..

But for those who haven’t read this story, my SIL who I was once close to decided to remove me from her life because I got pregnant fast and she has been trying for a few years. She had a miscarriage a few years ago and when she found out I was pregnant she stopped talking to me. I gave her space and let her process it how she wanted to.

Well she’s still avoiding and talking bad about me behind my back. It hurt my feelings and I didn’t know how to approach it. She also insults my husband from time to time, like she made a cutting remark about him being jobless while he’s been trying to find a job to provide for our family.

She got pregnant last summer and I was so happy for her. But she still chose to leave me out and act like I wasn’t a part of her life. That hurt.

**UPDATE**

Well my MIL has favored her, it’s very apparent to me. And she has been trying to get me to hang out with my SIL again because “family comes first”. And when I opened up and shared with her some of my hurt and why We haven’t been close at all this past year, my MIL’s response was “well she was in a lot of hurt. She just was hurting pretty bad. But you two are family and as family we do things together.” And basically, my feelings weren’t valid but my SIL had every right to be angry with me for getting pregnant easily.

And how do you explain her excluding me and ignoring me during family events? Is that how “family does things together”? She acted like I didn’t exist, with the exception of her baby shower.

I understand that she suffered loss. But dang, why did she take it out on me so bad. And on top of that, my MIL wants me to pretend it didn’t happen and to just be buddy buddy with my SIL again. Why would I be buddy buddy with someone who clearly doesn’t like being around me??