One of my friends has been pregnant twice and had the occasional drink through both (when she fancied it) and has two fantastic, clever kids.

I’m ttc my 2nd and my partner asked if I would not drink at all if we get pregnant this time round.

I drank occasionally during my first pregnancy (a very clever 20 month old) and we had absolutely no issues. I don’t get why he would think it should be different this time round?

I’ve told him 1 small wine with lots of soda water once a fortnight/month will do no harm and will actually keep me relaxed and keep my blood pressure low.

I don’t get why people feel it’s ok to comment on not only me but a friend and what we do during our pregnancy 😣 feeing frustrated at him!

Update: no I’m not stupid. I’m very well educated and very intelligent. I didn’t just come to this decision, I read enough before we got pregnant with our first and decided there was a minimal risk, if any, with that amount of alcohol. I was miserable up to 18 weeks of pregnancy as I had horrific sickness all day and didn’t feel like eating or drinking anything. I lost 2 and a half stone. So when I did feel like a glass of wine around 20 weeks, I had one.

I wouldn’t put alcohol in my baby’s bottle but that’s because I wouldn’t give them a bottle. I breastfed and drank. The evidence put forward from people like Dr Jack Newman suggests this is fine.

What is the point in just a glass of wine? Well it helps me relax and unwind. I don’t drink to get drunk. And I just enjoy the taste so! And no I don’t have a drink problem because I can’t go ‘just 9 months.’ That’s most of a frigging year. By the time I got to 36 weeks my midwife even told me to have a glass of wine!

I think I’m most annoyed that my husband has changed what he always agreed on with me just because a good friend of ours recently had multiples and didn’t drink through pregnancy. But she stated if she wasn’t an older mum and having multiples she would have.

Maybe if more women were honest about what and when they drink during pregnancy we could get accurate research into the impact of it!