Should I quit like he wants me to?

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My boyfriend wants me to quit very badly. He makes more than enough to support us both but I feel weird about it like I am mooching off of him. 
Backstory about us: we have been together for about three years, took a couple month break due to issues with an addiction on his part, but we are back together and while we are working on building trust again we came back together with the decision that we are committed and plan to eventually get married. (It was not an addiction that affected finances and wasn’t drugs). 
Backstory about my job: it’s negative and toxic. I spend more waking hours there than I do at home because I work the late shift. I am not getting home until around 9:00PM every night. My coworkers have strong personalities which means: they are always right, if someone doesn’t act how they want they throw a fit, everything has to go their way, I am not allowed to have my own opinion, I don’t feel like I am responsible for anything anymore because my counterpart takes over everything. My boss obviously favors my counterpart and my opinions are not valued. I have heard coworkers talking crap about me on multiple occasions, it’s just all around bad. My counterpart actually acts like she’s my boss, by telling me what to do and tells me to redo things that she doesn’t like. What makes it worse is that these are all older coworkers that should show more professionalism. I work in a small office in education. 
Now, I have been wanting to quit for awhile now and get into real estate. I am close to taking my license. I have been looking for a part time job to cover my bills while working in real estate but am having trouble finding one. My boyfriend wants me to just quit. He makes his own hours, so he has been staying home later so we can spend a couple hours together in the morning (especially while building trust) so he is not getting his work done as soon as it needs to be but says it’s worth it if we can work on us. 
His reasoning for me to stay home is so I can 1. Study harder and take my test sooner 2. Help up keep the house because since we both work a lot it gets messy/stuff doesn’t get done easy 3. Help take care of the dogs, we have six right now (don’t want six just fostering and looking for homes) and he does it basically all himself because he’s the one home during the day (I have about three hours in the morning and I am trying to study, take care of the house, take care of the dogs, and get in some ‘me time’ so I don’t go insane. 4. Because the work environment is toxic, I am always upset or grumpy or complaining because of how I’m treated and he says he would rather not hear about it 
5. Being gone into the night is making it harder for us to communicate and really get through our struggles together 
6. He’ll be able to take over his work again how it should be getting done. 
7. I do all the paperwork for his business so he said I would have more time to focus on it and get it done better. I would also be able to help out more with the actual business side of things not just the paperwork because I have time now. 
I feel weird just up and quitting. I’ve been here for a year and a half and I feel weird not working. Do I quit to work on our relationship and build toward my future career? I am already signed on with a brokerage and the broker himself said he would personally train me. Also, I have just about six months worth of bills saved up. My boyfriend says I wouldn’t have to use it because he would cover it but it would be for emergencies. Is it mooching? I mean, I’m working toward something so I don’t know. Advice?

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I personally wouldn’t without being married. You would be putting yourself in a very vulnerable situation. Even with the best guy, it’s a huge adjustment completely relying on someone else and all the emotions that come with it without having a job to feel like you have a backup just in case it doesn’t work out.

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You're quitting to build a career. You're not quitting with no goal. I did this in a previous relationship to build a commercial cleaning business. It worked just fine.

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Personally I would quit it's causing more stress then wanted, finish school and focus on a better career plus you guys have quite a few animals that need to be taken care of, I would say though before you quit to ask to be put on his account like have a card as well that way your not always having to ask for money plus it makes it easier when you want to go to the store or wherever when he's not around get all that situated before you quit. I too worked at a job I didn't like heavy labor with little pay and long hours and my stress levels and life are way better as soon as I quit I too went to school and graduated it was all worth it.

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I don’t work right now while I’m in college but I got married before I quit!! Just make sure you have a back up plan, save money up now and put it back for an emergency situation like if something went wrong. Also talk to him now. You don’t wanna quit your job and end up having to ask him for money all the time or him not giving you money etc. So figure out your finances, if he going to give you access to his account, open a joint account etc.. don’t wait until after you quit and see it’s not going how you expected.

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Quit because you want to, not because he wants you to. If you can survive financially without your job then leave bc that sounds awful. And I'm sorry you have to deal with adults that are like that

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I'd say quit. You can still look for a part time job in the extra time you have in the day and that way you won't be up a creek in case working on things doesnt pan out (best wishes, I hope it does work out, it's just a good idea to make sure you don't become dependent in case it doesn't).
You have a goal to start your career soon and you'll be able to launch it that much sooner.
You're working on your relationship too and being stressed out because your plate is overflowing already does not make that any easier. 
I speak from experience on this one and although I'm glad we've survived this far, it's freaking murder trying to balance that on top of everything else that's going on.
Good luck!

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It sounds like there are way many more pros than cons to quitting right now. Also, it's not like you won't be working toward a career for yourself in the meantime! I also say if y'all are committed to each other marriage makes no difference. In this day and age, marriage isn't as important because you can just get a divorce anyways. I'm not married but am a stay at home mom and no one doubts us or anything just because we aren't married. 🙄 Do it, working in a toxic environment is horrible for your mental health. Get the job you want quicker 😁

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I wouldn’t feel bad about quitting since it’s a toxic environment. And if you want to get into real estate you should quit. My husbands a successful real estate agent and he trains new agents. He says to be successful you need to put as much time and energy into it as possible and having a part time job while trying to build your name/clientele is only going to hinder your progress.

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I would look for another job instead of quitting. I am not saying your relationship will end but nothing is promised to us. I made this mistake and I was left with literally nothing. He took away my car, my phone...everything. It was definitely a lesson learned though, I will never give anyone financial power over me again.

Should I quit like he wants me to?

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