New single mom

Daisy

Okay so I had been in a long not great relationship for 8 years and I finally left beca my kids and I deserve better. I am now a single mom of 4 all boys ages 7y, 5y, 2y, and 8m. Two in school and two in diapers. Dad said he resented the kids for taking away his life, that he did not want the responsibility, and he could not handle the kids anymore that he wanted the life of a single man. The first time after I left him that I ask him to watch the kids he told me they were my problem now and left. So that is a little back story he is helping with bills until I get a job but that is all he sees the kids once a week and that is all he has to do with them.

So I have a few questions for all you experience single moms.

This one is for those of you who have a large family 3+ kids what is y’all cleaning and organizing tips and tricks? This is a lot harder with out him “watching the kids” I use that lose.

What should I tell the kids when they ask were dad is or why he does not visit?

What is your biggest struggle as a single mom?

How do you work and pay for babysitters?

How did or would you introduce a new man in your kids life?

We separated 5 months ago but he did not move out until a couple weeks ago I had a job but was allergic to the chemicals used to do the job so am looking again but have been seeing someone and the kids know him and love him but I don’t know how to tell them he is going to one day move in he love the kids half the time when he visits he spends more time with my kiddos then me and that is the best feeling knowing that he likes the kids he said he is starting to get attached I have been seeing him 4 months now. Random facts.