Help with sex

Isabella

So during sex I have trouble with actual penetration, I know when I finger myself I feel a tight hole I have to push through to actually insert but during sex it hurts a lot, I know that I’m meant to relax and I try my best to but I physically can’t, have any of yous have a single problem and know any tips? I also can’t really tell if it’s in or not, I don’t really know what the sensation feels like.