So I am 17 weeks pregnant and I do not know if I’m having a girl or a boy. We were not planning to find out and let it be a surprise.

I just found out one of my leads at work is pregnant with twins. I’m freaking out because I know we (most likely want the same name for a girl).

My husband and I have had names picked for so long, much before conception. If we have a boy, we will name him after my husband. If we have a girl, we would name her Rosalee Helen, after each of our grandmothers.

A few weeks ago some of my colleagues were discussing babies and saying if they were done or want more and blah blah. I hadn’t announced yet and also don’t have kids, but I was still in the conversation. My lead already has a daughter named “Poppy”. I asked her if Poppy was born in August because the August flower is a poppy.

She told me that she just liked the name and explained they were originally set on naming their daughter Rosalie, but decided on Poppy last minute. She also waited until birth to find out that poppy is a girl so apparently we have very similar taste.

I was like “oh my gosh when me and Chris have kids, we want to wait too!” And I told her Rosalee is the girl name planned when we have a daughter, but I explained the spelling would be different.

Now I found out she’s pregnant with twins. I don’t know when she’s due and she may not even have a girl or something, but I’m still freaking out.

I’d imagine that I’m due before her but if she founds out soon what she’s having and I wait, she might tell everyone her babies name and then it would look like I robbed it out from under her if I deliver a girl in July. Also another girl at my work is pregnant with a girl and asked me my names. I told her if I’d have a boy, it would be named after my husband. I didn’t want to give her my girl name because I know she’s still looking for a girl name. Then she asked “what about a girl” and I lied and said “we used to have names but I’m not sure now” because I didn’t want to share.

I’m so upset about this. Should I find out the gender? Should I wait to see if my lead finds out her genders??? Help!!!