My mom says I don’t defend her

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I have defended my mother ever since she was married to my piece of a shit father. I still took her side when she divorced the piece of shit. Every time I have defended her when the asshole tried to talk shit about her. Every damn time I stood up for her. From elementary to adulthood. What kind of parents puts all that pressure on a preteen at that time. I got tired of their bullshit.

Now she says I don’t defend her when she has said negative things about my boyfriend. Yes he has made some dumb mistakes but I don’t hold that over him either. Every time I explain to her how she made a bad impression she claims she missed it. Well when the fuck is she going to stop making that bullshit excuse. She surely does love to throw my mistakes in my face. Throwing up my choices in my face almost constantly. How am I supposed to even defend her now as an adult. Why do I have to constantly defend her? It’s exhausting to be honest.

She says I’m the cause of drama which isn’t true. I’ll admit I get heated during some conversations.

Today for example I found out she is throwing a baby shower when she cancelled the first one and told me and my boyfriend to fuck off. So I can’t invite my family to the one my boyfriend’s mom is planning because we thought my mother wasn’t planning one. So I guess I’m going to two baby showers cause I don’t need my family talking shit about me. God knows my mom won’t tell them the whole truth.

I just wanted a peaceful pregnancy and this has been the worst experience ever.