House

The situation:

Fiancé wants to buy house that me and him will raise our kids in.

He’s putting the money in, i am not. (Im unable to hold job)

Its his dream house, but I absolutely hate it.

He said, in the end your decision does not matter. Im buying it.

What do you think?

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Ce

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Only someone that didn't see you as their equal would have this mentality. My husband is the bread winner, but I still played a huge role in picking the house. We made sure it was something that met all of our needs and not just one person's. It's our forever home and that's a long time to live in something you didn't like.

K

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I wouldn't be engaged to someone who thought my opinion didn't matter about something like that.

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i mean. if you’re not putting in the work tbh i can see why you don’t get much of a say 🤷🏻‍♀️ it sucks but it is his dream home and his money. he’s also putting it towards your kids not just you. also. i wouldn’t be acting ungrateful if i hated the house (like if it was ugly or something. you could always get a paint job lol) unless there are foundation issues, HOA, stuff like that can be reasonable.

Mr

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Um no you both should have a say. It's going to be the home for both of you. There's no way I'd be with someone who thought I was so insignificant.

As

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“In the end your decision doesn’t matter” 🚩

Ke

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Em

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He can buy it and you can move into your own apartment. I wouldn't be with someone who spoke to me like that and didn't consider my feelings at all. If you don't/can't work but you do everything else then you should have a say specially if you will be spending more time in the home than him. You should feel comfortable in your home.

Ca

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He can buy it and you don’t have to live in it if you hate it. Houses can be remodeled. If you don’t like something, see if you can change it.

Al

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If his solely paying for it than I can see why he’d want to buy his dream home. It’s unfortunate you guys don’t see eye to eye but it already seems like his made up his mind? You could talk to him and express how you feel and if his willing to compromise and maybe look at houses together?

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It depends on why you hate the house. Without having all the details I would lean towards it’s messed up. Yes, it’s his money but you are his fiancé and he should at least consider your opinion on a matter as large as this.