Does any of you feel like the outsider? I love my step kids so much but honestly it feels like his family is the kids and him. I feel as if I don’t belong. Almost as if I’m just along for the ride. I struggle so hard with this. My step kids can be very mean to me. Usually my husband says something or I do, but nothing changes. They call me mom, I’ve been in their lives for 4 years since they were little. They are 4 almost 5 and 7 now. Their mom is in their life, but I can’t help but feel I’m not family.