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Unfortunately yes. I finally had to tell them to stop asking me, stop suggesting things and to just stop talking about it since it was too hurtful. Since then, they have respected my wishes and things have been soo much easier. Before it was honestly hard to be around them. I knew they meant well but it was never ending...
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Does anyone else get tired of hearing from their family's input on TTC?
I've wanted to be a mom for forever, and I have 3 sisters who had their first kid by the time they were 21... I know it isn't a competition, it's just that I'm going to be 33 this year and I'm getting worried that it won't happen. My DH and I have been trying for over 2 years and it's really starting to mess with my emotions.
What's really bothering me lately is the input from our family. I have sisters saying "it'll happen" and a MIL who complains that she "needs more grandkids". On top of that, there's my own mother making comments like "you're going to get pregnant with twins this month, god told me", and "you don't even realize you're pregnant yet do you?".
It's like I can't even allow my mind to think I could be.. The hope hurts too much. AF showed up again today.
Has anyone dealt with this? Your whole family waiting on you to join the Mom Club? Is there any way to get them off my back?
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I had been trying for well over a year. My DH and I kept it to ourselves to avoid that exact situation, but that is so lonely! So I shared with my SIL and that was great. We decided to stop trying because of the extremely emotional roller coaster was taking a toll on me. And yesterday i just found out that my other SIL is having a baby after trying for one cycles. I am genuinely super duper excited, but deep inside i felt sad that were weren’t able to. Take a deep breath! Tell them to back off a bit! I know this is so so very hard! I pray that soon you’ll have your little baby and it will be amazing to share!
For me it's like - now that my family knows we are/have been trying - they ask every month if it's happened yet. It makes it hard...
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Let them know how you feel. That it makes it harder and isn’t helpful. They likely are trying to be supportive by showing their excitement but clueless to how it affects you. People who get pregnant easily don’t know how much energy is devoted by those of us struggling.
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