I’ve never really been with a guy who took me out on dates or bought me dinner and suddenly this has changed. I met this guy on tinder and he’s super nice. I’m just confused. I have sex in and out of relationships and it’s something I love doing. Every guy I meet always wants sex quickly which is fine because I want it soon too. But this is the first guy I’ve met who didn’t want to have sex right away. I talked to my mom about it and she just says that’s a good thing and that he respects me. I’d like to think that even the guys I had sex with early on respected me because respect shouldn’t be based on how soon or late you decide to do anything sexual. He took me out on two dates so far and he always asks about seeing me again. He’s nothing like my ex boyfriend or any of the guys I’ve dated or messed around with. I’m not used to being taken out on dates or treated nicely considering my last relationship was abusive. It’s very weird for me to be involved with someone that doesn’t want to have sex with me right away. It’s also weird for someone to be this kind to me. A part of me wants to back away and drop it, which is incredibly stupid but I’ve never known anything like this. I sort of miss my old life. I’m unsure if this is what I want. All I’ve ever wanted was a good boyfriend who treated me like I was a person. I think I’ve found someone who’d be good for that role but is it what I really want? I’m used to being just fuckbuddies or friends with benefits. It’s like I’m heading into uncharted territory and I don’t know if I like it. I know that sounds really dumb though. Please just understand that that’s all I ever knew.

Also I’d like to add this. When I’m with him I feel safe. I’m not scared when he drives like I was with this previous guy. He drives safely and actually takes me into consideration. I feel protected. I’m not afraid he’ll hit me or yell at me. He opens doors for me and walks me back inside when he drops me off. I know this probably might sound sad to some of you reading this. I try to be as cold and hard as I can when it comes to men so I can protect myself, I don’t like this feeling of being vulnerable. If I’m being treated right its easier to want that person more. What if this person turns bad?

Any thoughts? Advice on what I should do? Please be respectful.