Lost baby

I’m 19 years old and less than a week ago I had an early miscarriage. I’ve told my boyfriend and as much as he is there for me I don’t think he’ll ever quite understand what or how I feel. But I’m so young that none of my friends can help me get through this and I have no one else to talk to. I have so many questions like even though I never got the chance to know I was pregnant am I still a mother? Is it wrong for my boyfriend and I to pick a gender neutral name for our baby?

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You grieve how you need to grieve. If picking a name helps you get over your loss, you pick a damn name. If they dont understand you, and you need someone to talk to, I suggest therapy or maybe an older woman in your life you can trust.

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I’m 18 And pregnant with my rainbow baby. Left me tell you we are mothers and having a name to go with my baby had made life easier. Now that we are still going with the K names his family is saying to use the name I chose for my angle baby and not to spite they didn’t know I chose that name. Your a mama just as any other if that’s what you want

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Mai • Feb 13, 2020
Also I’m always open to talk if you wanna friend me on any social media I’m open.

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I’m so sorry for your loss. It doesn’t matter how early... a loss is a loss. I felt a great amount of pain after carrying for only 6 weeks. Nobody can put a time limit on your grief. You will come to terms with it when you are ready. You will not forget your first baby. I chose not to name mine but I got an angel wing necklace in their memory. That’s how I chose to honor him or her. 💕 healing thoughts for you 🙏🏼 I’m not as young as you are but it would probably help you to confide in an older mother that you trust whether it’s your own or someone else’s. You would be surprised how many people have experienced what we did.

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I picked a name for my baby , acorn , once I pop this baby out I'm getting a tattoo in their memory