Lost baby

I’m 19 years old and less than a week ago I had an early miscarriage. I’ve told my boyfriend and as much as he is there for me I don’t think he’ll ever quite understand what or how I feel. But I’m so young that none of my friends can help me get through this and I have no one else to talk to. I have so many questions like even though I never got the chance to know I was pregnant am I still a mother? Is it wrong for my boyfriend and I to pick a gender neutral name for our baby?