I just had a chemical last month, me and my husband weren’t trying for baby #2 but I got so excited about it. I already had an amazon cart with a big brother onesie, and a letter board for an announcement. I had planned how we would tell our parents about their second grand baby. That happiness only lasted 2 days. 2 freaking days before I started bleeding and the tests then started turning up negative. I was just on the phone with my mom and I casually brought up how idk why people say you’re more fertile after giving birth bc I haven’t tried to prevent anything and nothing’s happened and she freaked out on me telling me how irresponsible it was and how I’m so stupid and naive for thinking it couldn’t happen. Which I know there’s always a possibility but the chances of it happening with my endometriosis is very low and I didn’t want to put my body through birth control again. I just think she doesn’t understand what it’s like to lose all hope in your body and reproductive system. She got pregnant her first month of trying, she’s never had any problems with ttc. My sons only 10 months old so I know my husband doesn’t want to try like we did with our son again, but we’re also on the same page of well if we have another one we’ll be alright. I just am so tired of my mom thinking she knows what will happen with everything and she just really hurt my feelings calling me stupid and saying I don’t deserve anyone’s sympathy if it happens if this is how I’m going to act. Like raising any kid is hard? I get that? I personally want to have my kids close in age because I’m an only child and don’t want my son to grow up alone like I did or have such a big gap in between them that they grow up separately. She kind of treated me like a single mom even though I’m married bc she talked about how hard it was for her as a single mom and was saying imagine how hard it would’ve been for her if she had two kids. When I reminded her I’m not a single mom that I’m married she said “well you’re heading in that direction if you have another kid”???. Idk she just really hurt my feelings just now and literally had to hang up the phone because she couldn’t stand talking to me anymore. :(