Husband is at work when he should have been home already. I stayed up, waiting for him to get home so that I could tell him HVD to his face and it mean something. This dude is going to text me at ten till 1 saying happy Valentine’s Day with a bunch of rose emojis. I’m pissed! He thought it was a good idea to text me that instead of saying it to my face. Now I’m not worried about gifts or anything like that. I could care less about material things. What bothers me is that it was so non emotional and detached to put it in a text message. Especially seeing as how he should have been home already. So when I get mad and tell him that it wad screwed up the way he did it, I’m the bad guy. So now he’s not coming home at all and is making himself out to be the victim.

Was I wrong for being upset about that?

UPDATE:

I could understand if this was a situation where he was working late and wouldn’t be home anytime soon. That’s not the case. He called me at midnight and said he would be home right after he checked his last post. An hour later, he sends me a text saying HVD. That’s it. He should have been home by then anyways. Even if he was running late, he still could have waited and said it in person. The text to me was so non emotional and no effort put in to it at all. So when I said something about it, he responds with how I didn’t say it and I’m making him out to be the bad guy to seek validation for my wrongdoing. Wtf?!? I explained how I didn’t say anything because I was waiting up for him to get home. I had already given him his gift the day before because I didn’t know what his work schedule was going to be like. Keep in mind, I also didn’t get a single thing for my birthday. Not even a happy birthday from him. Why......because he was angry at me for something totally unwarranted. The text of HVD wasn’t because he was thinking about me. It was more so because he didn’t want to have to hear any complaining if he was to not say anything at all. He then chose to stay working until 4am. When I asked him why he worked so much later, he said it was because he didn’t feel like coming home to a worthless bitch. So tell me again how that hvd text was out of love......

I also did the love language thingy and gave him my results. He responded with “yeah I’m not doing any of that and I really don’t care”.