My children’s father has another child from a previous relationship. Throughout the first 5 years of our relationship he was insistent this wasn’t his daughter. Until I found out I was pregnant, I caught him and her and the kid at his mothers house together like a happy family. That same day he tried to fight me for 50$ presumably so he could spend this money on them. It made me very sad so I left him. I cut off all contact immediately and moved out. Two weeks later he took me for lunch and I expressed my feelings toward the situation which weren’t good. I told him I had no room in my heart to have that child in my life and he could stay with his new family. I feel as though I may have given him an ultimatum. As far as I know he hasn’t seen the kid since. I had my son and we went on with our relationship and lives. Currently I’m about to give birth to his daughter and it bothers me that he has one he doesn’t care for already. Is there any suggestions on if I should say something to him? Like I don’t know what to do.. but sometimes I think about the situation and it bothers me a lot. I’m not bitter anymore that he has another kid, I was just struggling with the fact I was young and couldn’t deal with my own pregnancy. (Hes 9 years my senior)

-he never claimed this child my entire time of knowing him he always denied her and lied about her being his. It wasn’t until I got pregnant that suddenly he wanted to act like the child was his. This was a shock to me at the time and I made a decision to leave the relationship. I never told him to not see or care for this child, he just knew it hurt me very much. Not the fact he had a child, but because he lied to me about her for so long. He made the decision on his own to stop seeing her. I had my own life to worry about at the time, bringing my own child into the world I couldn’t have been bothered with worrying about someone else’s.