How do you find your kinks?

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Heeeyyy!!! So recently I’ve started making out with my new boyfriend, and he always seems to gently grab my throat with one hand and squeeze my ass with the other. It got me thinking that I have no idea how kinky he is or what he’s into, and then from there it got me thinking that I have no idea how kinky I am or what IM into!! 
How did you find out what you ladies were into? How did you discover certain kinks either for yourself especially or your partner?? 
Let me know! I love hearing your stories!

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BDSMtest.org and the YouPorn sex partners quiz. You should both take them and then share your results

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I found out through trial and suggestions from people I've had sex with. 
One BF asked me about blindfolding so we tried it and I loved it. I also realized with him I like getting scratched. He would rub his hands and fingers across me and I asked him to scratch me and realized I loved it. 
Another bf asked if I would choke him we talked about it and he said if I ever did feel comfortable I could do it whenever during sex, but he wouldn't do it to me since I wasn't comfortable with that at the time. Later during sex I tried it (he guided my hand because I was nervous and unsure exactly what to do) and I liked it. Got more into it the more we did it. Then one day during sex I took his hand and put it on my throat. He stopped and asked me if I was sure and I said yes so he did it. I suggested handcuffs and we tried those. 
Another fwb guy I called Daddy. He kept suggesting it and would call himself it to me. Eventually I called him it and loved it. (But haven't been able to call anyone else daddy) Same guy also made me realize I don't do the whole men pushing your head into their penis during a blow job. 
Another fwb made me realize I love being held/pushed into the bed during doggy. 
Honestly, it's trial and error. NEVER do anything you don't want to do, but if you want to try something and are nervous talk about it ahead of time and see how you both feel about it. Start slow and see how/if you like it. Maybe you don't and he does. Maybe he does and you do. 
Also have a safe word!!! That way if something becomes to much or your uncomfortable it can stop immediately.

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try new things!

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Kinks come and go. Sometimes they sort of occur to you at the most random of times. But i totally got into bdsm when I was in HS and found a book on it. Bdsmtest.org helps too. Be open to experimenting. Don’t use porn as a guide. Make sure consent and communication is clear through the entire thing as well. Almost anything has kink potential tbh so just go with what really works for you. Have fun with it.

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I was a virgin for 24 years and knew my kinks before trying them lol. I found a few new ones but to me I read erotica, or watched porn and if the scene was kinky and I responded more towards it, I would continue to look into that. There aren’t many things I don’t like though so I guess it was easy for me 😂

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I did research. Started by taking the bdsmtest.org and then looked into the ones I didn’t know. The lovehoney YouTube channel has some pretty good educational videos too if you look past the product placement (I really like the bondage gone Wilde series and the sectors ahoy series). Look up rigs! Notcamdamage on Instagram does some really beautiful rigs that are just insane! Experiment with stuff you think you’ll like. Talk to your partner about what they like. Do the things my kinkbaby!!

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Ask him what he is into. Watching porn with bdsm can help with finding what turns you on. Or just try it. You can always safe word out if you're not into it. Don't do anything you're not comfortable with. Play safe, sane and consensually.

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Honestly? Through porn. I found what I liked and it took a LONG time for my boyfriend to finally be confident to treat me roughly.... But he very quickly learned he loves it!

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By experimenting ! 
But before doing so, always make sure you are comfortable and trust your partner completely... safe words are ideal, but not necessary. And if you’re not enjoying something, speak up!

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