Bdsm an pregnancy!

So this has been a off an on topic for me an my boyfriend an I just dont know what to even say or feel at the point an please try to be friendly With your response, so I am 5 month pregnant an my sex drive comes an gos an as he has been patient with me he still wants to experience other sexual activities that I am unable to give, before we got pregnant we was a member of a swingers club an was lightly active in the bdsm lifestyle! So he been asking if I'd be ok if he went to the club by himself to let out some sexual frustration since iv been off an on with my sex drive! An we both have expressed our feeling an concerns, like what point is it gonna end, are u forming relationships, how I am gonna feel knowing hes there because pregnancy hormone are crazy!

Anyone else have any insight or have experience anything similar?

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He is weak, as someone deep in the BDSM scene I can see If you were comfortably in an open & polygamist relationship with no such doubts (or a need to ask strangers to ease these doubts, rather than him) it would be understandable but I'm sure jerking off for a bit to support your jacked up emotions is the least he could sacrifice. Not to mention adding unsafe conditions for the baby if he chooses not to use a condom, or the trust or anxiety not knowing if he'd break the promise to use protection if given the opportunity

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Just openly communicate. Make a rule that it cant be the same person more than once. And if you are comfortable you could talk about it after so that way it dosent feel like it is "another life" per say.Does that help a bit?

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I don't completely understand. If you were part of a swingers club, how is this any different?

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Amberley • Feb 19, 2020
but if you don't want sex right now and you are already ok with sharing partners, I don't really see the difference? There has to be a high level of trust for that lifestyle, right? Sorry, I'm probably trying to logic a situation where logic isn't really going to matter. Not that you are illogical! Just that feelings don't always make logical sense. if you feel uncomfortable with it, you have every right to tell him you don't want him to go

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Raye • Feb 19, 2020
Because he wants to go by himself an be with other woman while I'm home pregnant an hormonal