Vent Sesh and Advice needed

Hey y'all so I hardly ever get on here BUT I don't feel like I can post this anywhere else. I feel like without knowing me y'all may be able to give me 100% honesty and not take sides right off the bat. This has something to do with one of my ex best friends and I just need to know what to do and all that good stuff.

So as the story goes. Ive know my girl for about 12 years now, she has known my husband for about 20+. We have always gotten along. I've never had any problems with her. We always have fun together have party together. Well about 2013 we had gotten really drunk and had a 3some. No biggie right. We went on about our lives and remained close. Some part of me was secretly jealous for some reason because at that time I thought that crap was planned. They had never experienced with each other and thought maybe this was their time to do so. Fast forward to 2017, my girl starts dating this dude. He seems pretty cool and super sweet. She has now a almost 6 yr old daughter but at the time they got together she was about 3 I belive. Well at that time my girl shortly seen red flags in their relationship as far as he not wanting to be to big part of her daughters life, well evidently got over those red flags and continued dating, well I got pregnant in January of 2018 and then a couple months after that he came to live with us. I mean I was pregnant and we had just bought a house so we were somewhat worried with me going to have a baby that I was not going to be able to go back to work. I don't have a career so there was no maternity leave for myself. All I could do was start driving for LYFT and for the first 10 months I didn't feel like leaving my child. Well abyways him living under our roof we had gotten close and kinda knew everything that went on in his past relationships, his current relationship and etccc. Well there were alot of fights between them and he'd come home and say stuff about their fight. Well we know sometimes how crazy our girl could be so sometimes we would side we him. NOT JUST ME BUT MY SPOUSE TOO. Well there were alot of drunken nights that I may have shit that pissed my girl off but in some way I was trying to tell her something without blantly coming out and saying what was up. I remember that in March of 2019 they had gotten into another fight and well he decided to sleep with someone else, well that night was my hubby's birthday and long and behold my girl and roommate show up together. I'm flabbergasted and look at my roommate like WTF, well all of us had gotten into it that night and I about let it slip BUT I didn't. Well comes Memorial Day weekend and our roommate stays home and me, hunny, daughter and our girl n other friends go to the pool. Well I get hammered and evidently start saying mean things about my girl. Well my husband is embarrassed and drive home just yelling at each other. It got so bad he called his dad. Well my girl keeps calling my hubby, I'm like wtf. So I pick up the phone, she tells me to f off and text me saying to never text her again because I'm no longer a friend. So the very next day hubby comes home from work and tells me to go apologize to our roommate for giving him false accusations. I'm like for what? Well our roommate told my girl I told him that she gave my man an Std, I don't remember that at all and so he was sitting out in the garage whole my hunny was sitting out there and asked why he would tell our friend that and he flat out said he didn't and that she was crazy 😳😳😳😳, so for months I've been just figuring out why she is so mad at me and why she is he hell she still with thus dude. She is told my man that I embarrassed her and wanted an apology from me, which I gave, she never responded and she is moving down the street from us in a day. I also have a problem with a couple of our friends who repeat false shit to her like they are trying to give her all the gossip when they are the ones sitting there taking crap about her. All I want to do is push this aside and go on with life. I am sorry for what was said. Do I remember it all, NO BUT I will take responsibility for my drunk black out ass AND TO TOP it off her dude is still on dating sites as we speak. Confirmedby another friend. I'm just at a loss of what to do. Do I just give her time to process my apology or do I apologize another time 😭😭😭😭😭 please no negatives I'm already stressed out enough and wanting to make right OR IS IT TOO LATE 😳😳😳😳