Relationship

I started talking to my boyfriend about 4 months ago, this is the longest relationship I’ve had and I’m still learning. I’m starting to let go of myself and I focus too much on him, I spam him a lot and well I need to give him space, I like to tell him everything but I need to take care of me, especially before him I was in an emotional abusive relationship so I’m really trying not to act in an annoying way and trying to be me, I’m a calm and understanding respectful person. I haven’t been understanding that he needs space and his own quality time. If he doesn’t have that he’ll lose himself and I’d hate to be the cause, well that’s that l and about to lose myself now if I don’t get myself together.. any advice ??