How to deal...

So I’m 6 months pregnant with my second child. First trimester was just awful. I basically put myself on bed rest bc I was so sick and nauseous. Of course my husband made fun of me bc my doc didn’t say to “not do anything” or to just “lay down.” I feel like if you have the means to be able to stay in bed and get out when you need to, that’s perfectly fine. No need to shame.

My first born is a boy and now I’m having a girl. My husband wasn’t too excited that we were having a girl. He wanted another boy based on the fact that his sister had her 3rd boy. He thinks boys are much more fun than girls. He has a daughter from a previous marriage but isn’t close with her (lots of issues with the ex), so I figured maybe he’d want a do-over if he had a girl since he was never given the chance to be a part of her life other than once a month.

I’m a bit insulted and hurt by this bc he literally hasn’t said anything about the baby or showed any excitement. He Hasn’t cared to feel the baby kick, doesn’t ask me how I’m doing, nothing. He keeps saying how he wished we were having a girl and it makes me feel like the baby is unwanted. He’s even said that when you’re having a second child it’s like “ehh, don’t really care...excitement is gone since we’ve already experienced it.” Like I’m exited but I have no one to show my excitement with. Yes, I’m still in shock that I’m having a girl, bc I’ve been a boy mom for the past 4 years. Heck, I have friends that have been wanting a baby for years and couldn’t get pregnant. This is a blessing. This child of mine is a blessing and that’s all I have to think of. The only close person around me all the time that’s excited is my son. He makes me so happy, especially with his excitement.

I’ve thought of divorce, but I can’t seem to get myself there...yet.

I mean, I guess I shouldn’t let it bother me since he wasn’t involved in my first pregnancy either. He was much colder than he is now.