I don’t understand why he does this to me

He doesn’t communicate. I get home from a 10 hour shift (no breaks) at a new job where I am learning intense stuff.

I get home and I am on the phone with my mom for two minutes and then say “ok I have to go talk to boyfriend!!” He saw me on the phone so he went and sat back down on the computer. But he didn’t look at me, he barely acknowledged me, I was telling him about my day he barely listened, and then I started to just shut down. I asked him what was wrong and he said nothing I’m always like this (he uses him being less talkative than me as an excuse). Then I let him know that he was being distant and not really acknowledging me or interested so I stopped talking. Then to make a “point” that he is trying to talk he starts asking me like hundreds of pointless questions. Now I’m frustrated. He sees me cracking my knuckles he says “what are you doing” when he sees me do it every day so he knows. All with this attitude. So several thousand (exaggeration) questions later I just try to mend it by letting him know my energy matched his so now I’m tired and don’t have any more words (I have been looking into empaths because I am really affected by others energy and moods) anyway, I just asked if we could watch some videos. So he is leaving to drive to his sport an hour away and at this point I am drained. He said he’ll call and I said that I didn’t really have a lot of words left and asked if he could just text me he’s there safe. He calls anyway. Gets mad when I don’t answer his questions the way he wants and now I started getting really irritated and start snapping (I literally have 0 thought process left tonight). Then he finally gets there and I text after hanging up “I wish you could have been more understanding about my long day and wish you could have been nicer to me when I got home. I communicated with you all day and updated you on everything so I don’t think your actions were justified”. Then he calls. He explains that he was upset because he thought I was going to have a shorter day and he was looking forward to hanging out. So then I say “why didn’t you tell me that when I asked you what was wrong? I could have given you a hug or told you that it won’t always be this late” or whatever. Then he says he’ll just suck it up next time. I told him he is allowed to feel that way but why does he Always have to push me to be irritated or angry because he won’t communicate?! I feel like a bad girlfriend when I get upset but it’s literally like pulling teeth to get this guy to be real with me. And I’m fucking tired from work man.