How do you tell someone struggling TTC that you’re pregnant?

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I’m about a week away from announcing my pregnancy to everyone. My friend has been trying to have a baby for years and just recently went through IVF. She hasn’t told me what happened, but from some of the things I’ve noticed, it seems like it didn’t go well and she’s really torn up about it. I’m hoping she reaches out to me soon to talk about it, but I know she’s not ready at the moment. I have no idea how to tell her my news. I want to be sensitive to what she’s going through, but I need to figure out a way to tell her before everyone finds out and it’s all over social media. Any advice?

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As someone who struggled to get pregnant and went through ivf, I’d want a note in the mail or an email. Something where you tell her that you’re expecting but understand that might be hard for her to hear right now. But you wanted to tell her personally before it was online. 
That way she can read it, cry about it, and take the time she needs before talking to you about it. 
There wasn’t a pregnancy announcement that I didn’t cry about while ttc. Even for family and close friends. It didn’t matter how happy I was for them, I was so so so sad for me each time.

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The same way you tell everyone else.
-someone whos been the friend.

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That’s a though one. 
You can’t avoid it Bc she’ll feel more anger than sadness. 
Just tell her through txt or something 
I couldn’t imagine talking in person about that or on the phone I’d cry with them and feel so sad for them. 
I hope she gets for baby 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼 lots of baby dust to her 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼

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Tell her privately ❤️

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She may feel upset for herself but she will be happy for you.

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I was struggling to get pregnant. Two of my best friends got pregnant multiple times and each time they told me they felt bad telling me and would apologize. I personally never thought anything against it. I was always 100% happy for them, but that's just me personally.

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Tell her before announcing and just be gentle. Tell her you know she has been struggling and going through treatments so you wanted to tell her and let her process. I just went through IVF as well and it is so hard. I was lucky and got pregnant but if it wasn’t successful I would’ve felt like I lost a child since it was an actual embryo (and I know the gender so it would’ve felt like I lost a son). She could be going through that loss right now or possibly waiting until she feels she is in the clear. I know some people that have gone through IVF who after a positive they don’t believe it until they see the ultrasound since it’s been a long and possibly traumatic journey. 
Let her know you understand and don’t expect her to jump for joy for you but you wanted to share it personally. She should be happy for you but may be sad for herself. 
Congrats 💙

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That’s a tough one. Just don’t expect her to show happy reactions i say. When i was struggling, i just had a hard time being happy for anybody else. Had nothing to do with them and it was just what i was feeling about my own situation. I had to mute some people to first heal and accept and when i was ready again, reached out to my friends.

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