I told my husband one week in advance that I had a therapy massage today. I told him so he could make sure to stay home to watch our toddler.

His cousins called him and asked him to go out with them. Right about when it’s time for me to go to my appointment.

I was really looking forward to this appointment as I have a chronic ilness and the therapy eases the pain. I didn’t have therapy in like a year. The only other time I have asked my husband to watch my toddler is when I havr to go see my psychologist, 1 hour every month.

He works a lot, and he deserves his own time too. But.

He goes out whenever he wants. If his friends call him, he will go. Depending on his own wants and needs at that moment.

Not mine.

After his friends called to ask him to go out, he hung up, and looked at me and said; but what about (child’s name), you have an appointment.

The way it looked to me, was that he wanted me to cancel my appointment. He was excited and happy to go out, but so was I.

I threw an adult tantrum because he claimed that “I suffocate him, and he can never leave the house unless for work” which is not true. I don’t have any friends so I don’t even leave the house unless for work or school. I don’t go out. I watch my child, and he can go out whenever he wants as he does not know how to put him to sleep or wash him if he pooped his pants. I got angry and frustrated that he had the audacity to tell tell me I suffocate him. Bullshit.

I am really upset and i hate him right now. Was I wrong?