Selfish

My bf always says I'm selfish. I don't think I am. I know I could be more thoughtful but I don't see how I'm selfish. 
​He says I don't care about anyone's feelings but my own. Just thee day he had a bad day at work and he said I showed that I didn't care but I didbt aknowkedge it. I need some advice on how to get better with this. 
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It may sound weird but try the 5 love languages, it helps a lot.  It helps determine what "kind" of person you are and your SO is.  What you feel may be affectionate to your SO may not ve what actually what they need to feel cared about.  Does that make sense.  Ie, my hubby is a toucher, I'm not....to make him feel cared about I hold his hand and sit next to him (which I don't typically do) whereas I am someone where if you take out the trash and do dishes then that's love.....lol.  It sounds weird but we've been married over 10 years and we did the course 6 years ago and it really opened our eyes to how we can be better for each other.  (Stepping off soapbox now). :). Hope this is helpful.  

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Anna • Sep 11, 2014
Better so you can understand each other!

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Anna • Sep 11, 2014
The course may help you guys communicate better. Never change who you are for someone else. Just learn to communicate

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Anna • Sep 11, 2014
This all the way! It may not be because you are selfish, it may be he doesn't know how to ask you for what he needs.

Ni

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He sounds like an immature ex-bf of mine. Any other red flags?

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Just because gifts or write him love letters and make sure he knows that you are greateful for him and how he feels matters just make sure you think about what he wants as much as what you want 

Ka

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Maybe give him a massage ? That's what I do when my hubby has a bad day at work relaxes him and he always says he knows I care about him cause I do things like that ​ :) send him a txt says I hope you have a good day at work simple things like that