So we meet with a regular group of people locally we met off of Fetlife. The leading couple of our group kinda became our mentors and took us under their wing. He was brought into the community through leather and has been in the lifestyle since he was 16. (Yes he was a minor yes it was wrong but he loves the lifestyle and once he was an adult began fully exploring the possibilities) He has now been in the lifestyle for 25 years and knows way more than my newbie brain does. He’s also ex navy seal and she’s ex marine as well as my daddy so they know how to choke a person properly. They did a demo for us on knife play and in the process he choked her out. So I asked him to teach my daddy how to get me to the edge of passing out but not letting me slip under. Anddddd now he has to do it every single time we play cause omggggg the orgasms are the best. So if you need your orgasm to be stepped up a notch find you someone who can teach you lil ways to improve. Go meet kinky folks off of fet if there are groups in your area I promise you’ll find somewhere you fit in!