Would you send someone you thought you were good friends with a baby shower card even if you couldnt afford to send them money?

Here's some back story to my situation:

I was under the impression for years that me and this person were really good friends. She came to my wedding. She was involved with my bachelorette party, she even came to my husband's "shipping out for basic training" party. I was one of the few to be told by her that she was pregnant at the beginning of the pregnancy. We didn't talk to eachother constantly but i figured we just had a low maintenance friendship.

Well back in January i made an off color joke thats was not in any way directed to her. (I usually make lame jokes and all my other friends understand thats just kinda my personality and i dont mean to have it come off badly) and she was really pissed off at me. Well she decided to not invite me to her baby shower at all, and she hasn't talked to me since the joke, so she never confronted me about having an issue with me. She instead went to one of our mutual friends and continues to talk badly about me and how i piss her off all the time.

Well a few weeks ago i messaged her and asked if i wasn't invited to her shower since i didn't get a proper invite through the mail like everyone else. She said she "felt bad sending me one" because i live a few hours away, and she felt bad if i made the drive but she said i could go anyway if i wanted to. (Mean while the mutual friend lives 7 states away, is 5 months pregnant and has to fly in for the shower. But she doesnt feel bad about that.) And when i told her it hurts my feeling that she didn't invite me to begin with she got extremely pissed off at me and said "Well im sorry I hurt your feelings it is hard planning a shower that your trying to keep small, and take into consideration everyone in your life. At first I honestly forgot about it"

She contracted herself by saying at first she purposely didn't sent one, then saying she forgot. And it shouldn't be up to the one throwing the event to decide who is going to be able to make it to the event. You send and invitation and allow the invited person decide if they have the money and the time available to make it.

But after that last text i didn't reply because our mutual friend called me and told me that she was texting her saying how i pissed her off in 2 seconds flat.

If you were in my situation would you still send a card without money in it (i don't have the disposable funds at the moment we came up short for money this month) or just not send it at all?